We’re back from the in-laws, things we had planned didn’t happen but it was a great visit regardless. Surprisingly relaxing for me, and A felt right at home.
Tomorrow morning is our first day of daycare and work. I go back and forth between calm and so anxious I could vomit. I have idea what to pack her, they said diapers, wipes and a spare outfit….im over here like how many?! While I am worried about A handling the separation from me, I just feel like it’s going to be okay. They saying follow God’s lead for where he guides he provides, has just been on my heart these past few days. Im trying to focus on the positives (there are so many!) And letting God handle the rest.
It’s been a while since I’ve blogged, but not really. Last week I typed out this awesome piece about me just about losing my sanity after the stress of this year and somehow holding it together till I saw the light at the end of the tunnel plus some good surprises. Then I some how hit a button and it was gone. The whole post. Poof. About a sentence before the end it asked if I wanted to save, I didnt. I was about to publish it, no need to save. GAH.
Anyways I’m laying in bed before midnight which is some kind of miracle, but I am still pretty awake. A and I are at my future in-laws house little over half way through a 2 week long visit. It’s been bittersweet being here for many reasons. I miss B so much, and being surrounded by his family just makes his absence glaringly noticeable. Everything reminds me of him. It has been nice to just hang out with his parents, and let A play with toys and their dog. I have so few stresses here, I feel like I can just take a second to breath for once. On an exciting note….I’ve been offered a full time job that pays decent and has in building childcare!! While I am so excited to have some financial independence and work again, I am absolutely terrified of A going to childcare (wouldn’t even be considering it if it wasn’t in the same building.) So that happens just 2 days after we arrive home. See that post I deleted was jam packed with good stuff!!
I’ll be blogging more these next few days as I actually have time to, plus we’re doing some fun things.
“I can do this, I can do this…” more often then not I am prep talking myself for whatever new challenge deployment has thrown at us. This week its the car having more issues (in October we had a few parts replaced, covered by warranty thankfully) turns out those new parts had bad gaskets so one oil leak later and we’re back. Thankfully I am mastering the skill of finding the good in anything! Yesterday was our first car appointment where they were able to diagnose the problem. An hour spent at a dealership with a toddler can be rough, but they had a small playroom and I came prepared with snacks. The hour flew by and we had a blast crawling all over with toys my daughter had never seen before. Unfortunately the gaskets we needed had to be special ordered so this morning we are headed back to the dealership. We are going to be getting out of the house earlier than usual, but thats giving us a nice jump on the day and A (my daughter) seems to be in a great mood.
I am sitting here drinking my morning coffee, letting it warm my soul as I attempt to plan out the foreseeable future. One thing that I am still learning to accept is life with a toddler rarely goes exactly as you plan it, and deployed life never goes anything like you plan it. I am one of those people that needs a plan to hold on to my sanity. Now that plan is just a big picture with a LOT of wiggle room, but its working for A and its working for me. Right now that plan includes budgeting to get out of debt (only 400$ left in credit debt!!) and raising my credit score. Thats all!! As always I am struggling with stress/anxiety/depression but we will be heading to visit our future in-laws in just a few weeks, the change of pace and scenery is very welcome.
Lately I’ve been having the urge to write again, just to clear my head. I was shocked to see that it has been over a year since my last post and unfortunately not surprised I only had blogged twice. 2016 kicked my butt.
I tried so hard to be happy and focus on the positive, but more often than not I failed. The impending deployment was a huge dark cloud that followed my family around, as it got nearer my stress and anxiety grew (and dance eventually became depression) . It affected our plans of buying a house, and affected relationship my boyfriend and I had. My daughter turned one, and then my boyfriend deployed a month later. I felt abandoned and hopeless, my world spiraled out of control.
Now he has been gone for almost 4 months and we are powering through, or doing our best to. Im not going to lie I hate this lifestyle, and feel like we sacrificed a year of our lives. What’s done is done though so we are making the best of it. My daughter is still the light of my life and even though 2016 was rough, I maintained my calm mama cool (99% of the time.)
I think this blog has evolved, now I am attempting to be a mama that is calm in the face of the storm. All storms that is, whether it be rocky relationships, deployments (which is really just a serious of stotms) or terrible toddler tantrums. I got it.
I still love holding her tight and running my fingers through her hair, watching her drift off to dream land.
More posts to come, good days and bad days both.